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“The Chaos” by Gerard Nolst Trenité, written nearly 100 years ago in 1922, designed to demonstrate the irregularity of English spelling and pronunciation.
Dearest creature in creation,
Study English pronunciation.I will teach you in my verse
Sounds like corpse, corps, horse, and worse.I will keep you, Suzy, busy,
Make your head with heat grow dizzy.Tear in eye, your dress will tear.
So shall I! Oh hear my prayer.Just compare heart, beard, and heard,
Dies and diet, lord and word,Sword and sward, retain and Britain.
(Mind the latter, how it’s written.)Now I surely will not plague you
With such words as plaque and ague.
But be careful how you speak:Say break and steak, but bleak and streak; Cloven, oven, how and low,
Script, receipt, show, poem, and toe.Hear me say, devoid of trickery,
Daughter, laughter, and Terpsichore,Typhoid, measles, topsails, aisles,
Exiles, similes, and reviles;Scholar, vicar, and cigar,
Solar, mica, war and far;One, anemone, Balmoral,
Kitchen, lichen, laundry, laurel;Gertrude, German, wind and mind,
Scene, Melpomene, mankind.Billet does not rhyme with ballet,
Bouquet, wallet, mallet, chalet.Blood and flood are not like food,
Nor is mould like should and would.Viscous, viscount, load and broad,
Toward, to forward, to reward.And your pronunciation’s OK
When you correctly say croquet,Rounded, wounded, grieve and sieve,
Friend and fiend, alive and live.Ivy, privy, famous; clamour
And enamour rhyme with hammer.River, rival, tomb, bomb, comb,
Doll and roll and some and home.Stranger does not rhyme with anger,
Neither does devour with clangour.Souls but foul, haunt but aunt,
Font, front, wont, want, grand, and grant,Shoes, goes, does. Now first say finger,
And then singer, ginger, linger,Real, zeal, mauve, gauze, gouge and gauge,
Marriage, foliage, mirage, and age.Query does not rhyme with very,
Nor does fury sound like bury.Dost, lost, post and doth, cloth, loth.
Job, nob, bosom, transom, oath.Though the differences seem little,
We say actual but victual.Refer does not rhyme with deafer.
Fe0ffer does, and zephyr, heifer.
Mint, pint, senate and sedate;Dull, bull, and George ate late.
Scenic, Arabic, Pacific,Science, conscience, scientific. Liberty, library, heave and heaven,
Rachel, ache, moustache, eleven.We say hallowed, but allowed,
People, leopard, towed, but vowed.Mark the differences, moreover,
Between mover, cover, clover;Leeches, breeches, wise, precise,
Chalice, but police and lice;Camel, constable, unstable,
Principle, disciple, label.Petal, panel, and canal,
Wait, surprise, plait, promise, pal.Worm and storm, chaise, chaos, chair,
Senator, spectator, mayor.Tour, but our and succour, four.
Gas, alas, and Arkansas.Sea, idea, Korea, area, Psalm, Maria, but malaria.
Youth, south, southern, cleanse and clean.
Doctrine, turpentine, marine.Compare alien with Italian,
Dandelion and battalion.Sally with ally, yea, ye,
Eye, I, ay, aye, whey, and key.Say aver, but ever, fever,
Neither, leisure, skein, deceiver.Heron, granary, canary.
Crevice and device and aerie.Face, but preface, not efface.
Phlegm, phlegmatic, ass, glass, bass.Large, but target, gin, give, verging,
Ought, out, joust and scour, scourging.Ear, but earn and wear and tear
Do not rhyme with here but ere.Seven is right, but so is even,
Hyphen, roughen, nephew Stephen,Monkey, donkey, Turk and jerk,
Ask, grasp, wasp, and cork and work.Pronunciation (think of Psyche!)
Is a paling stout and spikey?Won’t it make you lose your wits,
Writing groats and saying grits?It’s a dark abyss or tunnel:
Strewn with stones, stowed, solace, gunwale,
Islington and Isle of Wight,Housewife, verdict and indict. Finally, which rhymes with enough,
Though, through, plough, or dough, or cough?Hiccough has the sound of cup.
My advice is to give up!!!
More specifically, we are on the verge of completing a study on the differences between those who engage in high impact play as part of a BDSM scene and those who engage in non-suicidal self-injuring (NSSI) behaviors, and we are currently crunching the numbers. Our rationale for this study is that for many clinicians in the mental health field, those who engage in intense sensation play of BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) are often co-mingled and conflated with behaviors of those who engage in self-harming behavior. As a result, individuals who belong to the BDSM subculture are often pathologized and misunderstood in clinical settings, and so may find themselves without adequate psychological care.Here is a brief overview of our methodology. We recruited subjects via online networks and professional listservs. Information was obtained from respondents via an online survey, consisting of roughly 12 qualitative questions about the individual's motivation and experiences engaging in either BDSM or NSSI (or both), as well as three psychological instruments, the Experiences in Close Relationships Scale- Short Form (ECR-S), which measures attachment style: Adverse Childhood Experiences Scale (ACE), which measures level of childhood trauma; and The Big Five Inventory (BFI), which measures personality traits. The qualitative section asked about the individual's motivation as well as subjective experiences before, during, and after engaging in self-injury, BDSM sensation play, or both.
article continues after advertisement Sample questions included (in the case of BDSM, but with different terminology for NSSI):"—What are your expectations or motivations for engaging in intense sensation play?"
"What kinds of thoughts and feelings do you typically experience prior to intense sensation play?""What kinds of thoughts and feelings do you typically experience during intense sensation play?"
"—What kinds of thoughts and feelings do you typically experience after intense sensation play?""—How does intense sensation play affect how you feel in relation to others?"
—"How does intense sensation play affect how you feel about yourself?"As we have begun to crunch our numbers, a variety of fascinating trends have emerged. First, the individuals that struggled with NSSI experienced overwhelming negative feeling states prior to self-injury, then felt a wave of relief and distraction, followed by deep regret and shame afterwards. The BDSM group however stated that they felt excitement and anticipation ahead of time, a sense of excitement and pleasure during the encounter, and a wave of deep connection to their partner afterward, as well as a stronger sense of self-empowerment and authenticity.
Most importantly, the cohort that experienced NSSI and BDSM reported the same experiences. They had started NSSI at an early age (typically adolescence) and then had stopped, but then continued on with BDSM sensation play as adults, enjoying all of the same benefits as the BDSM only group. So this leads to an important question. For the group that experienced both NSSI and BDSM, does BDSM offer a better, healthier alternative than self-injury? If this is the case, then BDSM would serve as a healthy and healing harm reduction alternative to self-injuring behavior. (Note: As of a few months ago our number of respondents for each cohort was BDSM only- 172, NSSI only- 34, and both BDSM and NSSI- 129. I will continue to update this as we add to our data.)Flagellation, labeled for reuse, Wikipedia Source: Flagellation, labeled for reuse, Wikipedia Before jumping to conclusions, let's take a look at other possible scenarios and explanations. It's quite possible that for the NSSI and BDSM cohort, they independently stopped engaging in NSSI once they resolved some underlying emotional issues and then at a later point in time discovered that they enjoyed BDSM, and these two activities stand alone and have absolutely no connection to each other. I would not be surprised if this was the case for a majority of respondents. Indeed, a number of them had mentioned they had stopped NSSI due to age (growing out of it) or having resolved their emotional issues in other ways, such as removing themselves from a bad living situation or working through the difficulties in therapy.
However, some did indicate that BDSM served as a transition to more evolved coping methods. In this case, BDSM would both be therapeutic (helping to deal with, manage or overcome deeper emotional disturbances), as well as serve in a harm reduction capacity by providing safer and more connective ways of dealing with those same difficulties. I want to be cautious here of not overstating this conclusion. As I've indicated in a number of other articles, recent robust research has found no correlation between BDSM and pathology, and indeed the research that attempted to connect BDSM to trauma often had underlying deeply flawed and biased methodologies, such as cherry picking respondents and only using a small number of subjects (one study only had three).For a distinct population however, BDSM may serve as both a healing and harm reduction approach to trauma and emotional pain. I have presented before, for example, in a lecture entitled The Healing Potential of Psychological Edge Play at the 1st Annual AltSex NYC Conference, a case study in which one of my clients used BDSM edge play to re-enact a rape experience, and in this way resolved her sexual anxieties in the process.
Let's finally move beyond outdated and arbitrarily socially constructed views of how people should behave, especially with their sexuality. Research shows that not only is BDSM not pathological, but it can also be used in a therapeutic sense, both in trauma healing and for some, as a harm reduction approach.
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